Most managers I have worked with have one leadership style. They use it for everything.
The directive manager directs, even when the team needs to be heard. The friendly manager keeps the peace, even when the team needs a clear decision.
Daniel Goleman described six styles in "Leadership That Gets Results", and I find the list useful because it turns style into a choice.
- Visionary. "Here is where we are going. You choose the route." For when the team has lost direction.
- Coaching. "What do you want to get better at this cycle?" For a rep who wants to grow.
- Affiliative. "That was a hard month. How are you holding up?" For a team that is hurt or divided.
- Democratic. "Before I decide, I want to hear from each of you." For when you need ideas and real agreement.
- Pacesetting. "Watch how I do it. Now match it." Rarely, with a skilled team and a short deadline.
- Commanding. "Stop. This is how we handle it today." In a real crisis, and briefly.
Many sales managers live in the last two. In short bursts they help. As a permanent setting, they wear a team out.
The question I try to ask is not "what is my style?" It is "what does this moment need?"
“Your personality stays the same. Your style should change with the moment.”

Lesson 11 of 19 in Step 5: Motivating and building the team, with the full guide and a checklist for this week.