Many one-to-ones I have sat in, on both sides of the table, were the monthly report read aloud.
Sales versus target. Calls versus plan. A few instructions. See you next month.
The rep leaves knowing what the manager thinks of the numbers. The manager leaves knowing nothing new.
How I run them now, in four steps.
- The rep sets the agenda.
- I open with one question: "What do you want to use this hour for?" Their topics first, mine after.
- Check last time's actions.
- On both sides. If I promised to sort out a sample issue and did not, that comes up before anything the rep owes me.
- Talk about the person.
- Workload, development, what is getting in the way. The numbers are part of the hour, not all of it. This is the step that usually gets squeezed, and it is the one that matters most.
- Agree who does what.
- Two or three actions, each with a name and a date. The rep types them and shares them with me the same day.
And one rule. I do not cancel it because the week got busy. A cancelled one-to-one tells the rep exactly where they rank.
“The one-to-one is the rep's hour. Protect it like a meeting with your best customer.”

Lesson 5 of 19 in Step 5: Motivating and building the team, with the full guide and a checklist for this week.